Sometimes in Life we come across incidents or find ourselves in situations which we find hard to believe, hard to imagine, hard to swallow and really hard to accept the fact that its a truth.
So how do we deal with it anyway ?
Forget everything that has just happened ?
Pretend every thing was just a dream and when you wake up every thing will be all right ?
Maybe that would have been the easiest thing, waking up in the morning and see nothing like this happened before and all is preserved in time in its wonderful happiest best, where every thing is just the way you wanted to be, loved by your loved ones, liked by people, & such a nice feeling, that you are happy with your life.You are careless,free, happy,loved and no ones going to take it away from you ever.You feel the same way about others and feel this happiness inside you should be shared.
But what happens when you realize its not a dream any more ?
When you are in a situation like this, you feel like a wild fire has gone right through you and burning ever so ferociously in the inside engulfing every bit of you and you feel isolated like a lonely bubble in the ocean fragile, afraid and alone. This is not the kind of loneliness that gives you peace, this is the loneliness awarded by some one or some thing you least expected is a horrible thing and you suddenly realize how lonely you truly are in this universe, but which I think is entirely not true. The pain inside you is unbearable and you have got no way to tell it, write it, express it or stop it.You feel like every piece of you is broken up in such a way that there is no hope of picking up all the pieces. From a personal experience i could tell that when I was on a trip to a beach, it was 12 past at night when i decided to be adventurous and went for the ocean with one of my friend.It was pitch dark at the beach , no lights only the far fading spots of light from the distant horizon behind us and the sky was murky with no stars or moon to gloom. I was walking towards the ocean, I had no torch or mobile with me and soon i was alone as we walked randomly in different paths. I was still walking towards the ocean, I could hear the sound of the waves crashing on each other & only the my
heart beat that is pounding like a gray hound which just chased down a deer, I walked and walked till I could feel the cold water gently washing my feet. I turned around and looked back. There was no trace of civilization, no lights, no color, no shape just a sound, but this time it was the roar of the ocean which was in front of me, I could feel the vastness of it even though I cant see a thing. The cold air from the ocean was whispering by my ears and gently blowing my hair, but the roar, the sound of the ocean has taken the one single sign of existence from me, the sound of my heartbeat is suppressed. At this moment suddenly I felt how lonely I am in this Universe, It made me feel
as if I didn't even existed. My very existence was in question and I couldn't do anything about it as everything became a big void to me.You wake up to a truth that seems far away from the same.The fact seems far beyond your strangest fiction and even though the bare truth is every were you refuse to accept it, grant its truthfulness; like a child who just cant watch his/her
favorite team loose or his/her favorite Super
Hero get beaten up by bad guys.You just switch off all your seances and
separate your self from the real world , keeping inside the confinement
of an imaginary bubble. Trust me it helps for a while, but it doesn't solve anything, just keeps you away from the pain for a little while. Once you come out of the shell you have to face it all over again, its all right to never come out in the open again; but it doesn't help really only it makes thing worse.
So How do you face it?
Running away or Confining your self is not what you would want to do. Though easier said than done, situations like when your loved one passes away, or you are have broken up from a 4 year long relationship it does take a lot from you just not avoiding the fact that the person you lived isn't going to be around when you open your eyes and your lover isn't going to be with you on your way back from college or work and it's much easier to keep your eyes closed nice and tight and prey it was all a dream and you will wake up in the next morning to see a beautiful day where every thing is perfect, just the way you wished it to be.All our wishes do come true, if we truly wish it from our heart; rest of the time we have hardly any clue what we wish for and what we truly want.
Once you are broken up, you must pick up your pieces. Start from zero. Yes! start all over again and there is no easy way out, but there is a way out. A set back in life makes you only stronger if you manage to survive it. Cuts do heal, but wounds don't. Having said that a wounded is the one who has seen the storm through.Scars can make you ugly but wounds make you more complete more beautiful, Just like a Diamond which shines even more with every cut. When you see people in much more greater pain than you are in, and surviving that with a smile on the face gives you the courage to try to fake a smile and this is the first baby step in putting your self back together again.